People like to say that new year’s resolutions are arbitrary – what is so special about January 1st? Why not make changes to your life on other days? Why do your goals and dreams have to start on the first day of the year?
To that, I say…
Last Wednesday, I turned 32 years old, and on this “arbitrary” date, I decided to implement two “new years” resolutions. (Get it? It’s still a new year, right?)
- Stop reading the comments
- I don’t think it’s realistic for me to completely cut out social media. Facebook Messenger is still the primary way that I message friends, and Instagram has been a great way to passively keep up with friends and find out about things to do and places to go. I’ve already implemented guardrails to keep myself detached, like not looking at my Facebook feed and keeping both the Facebook and Instagram apps off of my phone.
- Since having a baby (which I swear I will write more about soon) and diving deep into parenting content, I have found myself even more stressed out by every comments section I see. So much judgement! So many conflicting opinions! So many strong opinions!
- I’ve since realized that every comments section is like this – so why even look at any, anymore, anywhere?
- Reach out more proactively to friends
- After my year of trivia nights (which I also swear I will write more about soon), I became a lot more comfortable with reaching out to friends and making proactive plans. Though becoming pregnant threw a (happy) wrench into my plans, I was still happy to have an excuse to see people, especially when pregnancy was the roughest and it was hardest for me to get out of my front door.
- Since giving birth, more than ever, I have felt the importance of having a community, and would love my daughter to grow up surrounded by loving adults and role models. As my past new year resolutions have shown, I’ve been wanting to fight my introversion and be a more proactive friend, but that goal had never felt as pressing as it does now with my new little girl.
- I’m not exactly sure what this looks like yet – more phone calls? FaceTimes? In-person meet-ups (if I can figure out how to finagle them with a baby)? I just know that I want to make my connections an even greater priority this year, more than ever!
- Additionally, I have a sub-resolution to ask more questions. I talk about myself a lot! (Why do you think I started a blog?) I am happy to talk about whatever my conversation partner wants to talk about, but have always been scared to ask leading questions (what if you don’t want to talk about that?), and have never been great about following-up on past conversations (oh no! I completely forgot about that big trip you took!).
I am hoping that focusing on asking more questions will help me do that! (I am genuinely interested in you, OK! I am just bad at showing it!!!)
Trisha Serquina 